The early and familiar forms of selfishness are: building up self at the expense of others, claiming or puffing credit, being glad when others go wrong, resenting the genuine successes of others, preferring public vindication to private reconciliation and taking 'advantage of one because of his words' " ...Selfishness likewise causes us to be discourteous, disdainful, and self entered while withholding from others needed goods, praise, and recognition as we selfishly pass them by and notice them not.  Later on come rudeness brusqueness, and the further flexing of elbows. "

Maxwell
April 99 Conference, pg. 23